This is my 150th post and I wanted to write something meaningful and that is of some use to the society. Luckily my eyes fell on this topic and I hope this post makes a difference. C. Joybell says families are formed in the heart. The only time family becomes null is when these ties in the heart are cut.
The term divorce may have become more common today. The emotional scar it leaves for those concerned especially the kids is unimaginable. Recently I read in the paper that a couple in
decided to separate because of their political views. Egypt
American Psychological Association in its website says that healthy marriages are good for couple’s mental and physical health. Happy marriages also protect children from mental, physical, educational and social problems.
A recent research says that, those people whose parents divorced at a very early age tend to have more insecure relationship with their parents as adults than those whose parents split at a later age. Family relationships form the crux of a person’s self development. I have noticed in many of my friends that they share everything either good or bad first to their parents. Many people build their emotional foundation upon their parents.
When these foundations are shaken or shifted at a very early age guess the amount of emotional scars it leaves on the tender minds.
Another study reports that adults whose parents were divorced are more likely to change religions or disassociate themselves from institutional religions. I guess emotionally they lose their identity and stagger to believe in something stable.
The problems do not end there earlier research studies say that children whose parents have undergone divorce experience setbacks in math test scores and also have problems with interpersonal skills and internalizing behavior during the dark divorce period. The children suffer from feelings of anxiety, loneliness, low self esteem and unhappiness. Older children are so swayed by the split that they even seriously consider suicide points out one survey. Children of divorce are twice more likely to have a stroke at some point in their lifetimes.
Gordon. B. Hinckley writes in 10 Neglected Virtues That will Heal Our Hearts and Homes that, the remedy for most marital stress is not in divorce. It is repentance and forgiveness. It is not in separation. It is simple integrity that leads a man and women to square up their shoulders and meet their obligations.
Take good care,
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